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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from Sijez]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Glad to say I read the posts in the correct order and wasn't wrong.]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from RealityMonster]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Oh man, this is so true. Last year I was on a trip with a group of other guys and met a pretty girl. Every time the conversation drifted away to something she found boring, I'd try and start up a conversation with her by asking her to tell me something about herself and where she was from. Unsurprisingly, by the end of the weekend, we were attached at the hip -- so to speak -- and the other guys that were showing interest in her but carrying on with boring conversations were looking a bit sad about the whole thing.

I was showing interest because I was honestly interested, but it's pretty clear that faking interest would be just as effective. That's something to think about.]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from mwaldo13]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Like KingDinosaur I just learned what it was called, too.  My favorite experience with it (see how I make it about me!) was in business school when my unorthodox, though much more entertaining, Organizational Behavior professor asked for volunteers to submit to a psychological study for a friend of his.

His friend was a professor at Stanford he wanted 25 of about 100 students to fill out a survey about themselves.  Our professor sent those sealed questionnaires off to Stanford and a few weeks later the results were returned.

He asked each of us to quietly read the results to ourselves and then asked if we agreed with what it said about us.  All 25 agreed that it was a fair evaluation of us.  He then asked if anyone would be brave enough to read his or hers aloud.  

As that person read the remaining 24 of us realized that ours was the same.  Word for word the same! 

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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from charlesfunnish]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[another:

You are right on.  Seeing through BS is rare these days.  People just don't think for themselves anymore.

I often turn to my friends in disbelief when they believe every pitch put in front of them.  It's like spoonfeeding a baby.

That's why I started The BS Detector Master Mind Group.  It's definitely not for everyone.  It's for an elite group that insists on honesty and value, period.

People like you, another.  And for $19.99, you too...

[That was fun.]

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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from Kingdinosaur]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[I understood the concept of cold reading before, but I never knew the name of it... so at least I learned something today.

So wouldn't cold reading be almost mandatory for a politician to learn?  If con-men and psychics can make a living off of it a politician would almost have to in order to keep up with his opponents.  Talking vaguely about lowering taxes for the middle class, which most people are a part of, or cleaning up Washington corruption is pretty much mandatory, but they seem to be a part of the cold reading concept.  Or you can talk about hope and change and let the audience fill in the rest for you. 

As a side note, I just started reading Beck's new book Common Sense and the first chapter has a bunch of cold reading in it.]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from Jugglingfreak]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[This is know as the The Forer effect.  The personality test that someone mentioned having done in school was a recreation of psychologist Bertram R. Forer's &quot;personality test&quot; to his students.  He then asked them to rate it from 0 to 5 on how well it described them.  The average result was 4.26.  He then revealed that everyone got the same description that he culled together out of old horoscopes.

Very interesting stuff]]></description>
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<description><![CDATA[Horse Manure.

When anyone pretends to know things about me that they couldn't possibly know - I'm outta there.

When a salesman says, &quot;You are the kind of person who...&quot; I turn around and walk away, even if I want the product.  I know BS when I hear it.

When a guy asks, &quot;Where did you learn...&quot; (and they have) I turn around a walk away.  I'm not interested in being treated as if I am so stupid that I would fall for that kind of BS.

When a friend is with me and this happens, they are stupefied.  Why did you leave?  

I have a better question - Am I the only one who sees thru this BS?]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from kaladorn]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[I just read yesterday's post. My immediate response was &quot;he threw out a bunch of generalizations all over the map - bound to hit some on each person&quot; and &quot;but only one or two of the entire list would seem anywhere close for me&quot;. 

The vast majority of things you said weren't just 'not applicable', they actually opposed things I'd have said about myself. Maybe I'm an outlier (an induhvidual, just like everyone else, as the old saw goes). I think maybe two sentences in that entire set of 25 or so seemed applicable and they were so generic as to be indicative of no particular insights. If I took the 'you' to mean all dilbert readers (vs. me particularly), I might have concluded this was some statistical representation of the body of readership or posters to your site and therefore would have shrugged and went &quot;well, that's probably how they see themselves&quot;. 

I'm not immune to advertising or to a cold read or some of the other psychology tricks you could use as a thought experiment or bait, but using generalizations will mostly fail since I tend to reject most of them (or find them inapplicable). Because I don't just reject them all, even turning them around and reversing them wouldn't work all that well. And this isn't even a constructed approach to life, I just haven't really thought like most people I know for most of my life (and no, I'm not the 1 in 10 with a high psychopathy index either.... quite the reverse). 

I find for myself, I'm less interested in things about me than in things about others that seem substantial and less than superficially presented. Ultimately, I live with myself every day and know myself as well as anybody (better than I want to some days). I'm more interested in what insights I can gain about others. So trying to pander to my (alleged) interest in myself will quickly bore me or make me shake my head at the inaccurate characterizations. 

I suppose how well a technique like making things about the person themself and focusing on their individual situation depends a lot on how internally or externally focused they are and probably also to a large extent on their own self-image and/or ego. Me... I'm just a boring and average entry in the overall world. Tell me about someone else and you're telling me something I can get interested in. Tell me about me and you'll either get it wrong (most commonly) or at best I'll say &quot;yah, so? that's not news....&quot;.]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from Fractal Knight]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Scott,  did you learn this from Catbert or Dogbert?  I am thinking Catbert,  but it also sounds like Dogbert.  

BTW.  Good comic today.  Good advice.  Who would want their soul to escape?]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from Leora]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Curses on you, Scott Adams, for so easily manipulating us!  What other dastardly tricks do you have up your sleeve?  If only one could use these powers for good, like winning friends and influencing people.

Now I must go purchase your newest book and the figurine set and perhaps...hey, wait a minute!
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from HumilityRocks]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Scott,

Thanks for the followup.

The best fortune cookie I've gotten lately was one that said, &quot;You look pretty.&quot;

I figure I got the wrong one, or I'm going to prison soon.]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from BobNL]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Oh and Miguel1626, if you don't think you have anything useful to add in a meeting, think about how even less useful most of the contributions from the people around you are.]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from BobNL]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Scott,

You are easier with big crowds then with small groups of people with whom you interact directly.
You not only have a vague feeling that you are smarter then those around you, you know it for a fact.
Sometimes you wonder why you are so succesfull, allthough you know how hard you worked for it.
You need the appreciation for your work, feedback is very important for you.
Although it doesn't seem always so in your writing, you are actually a very kind person.
Would you like to place a link to my website?]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from Stui]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[I like this &quot;cold read&quot; thing. I recently asked a girl why it was that such a plain looker like her had apparently had more pr1cks than a second hand dart board.

We didn't connect at all, althougth the roundarm right just narrowly missed.]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from davich]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Disclaimer: Do not take your seduction advice from a cartoonist who specialises in geeky cartoons.]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from Conotor]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Hey miguel1626, I have that problem to.  On the plus side, their is an awesome song about it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2kIZeVoRBuU]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from kshepherd]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Loved yesterday's post (obviously!) and today's followup. Cold reading and mentalism effects are an interest of mine also -- I highly recommend watching the full, unedited (well, hardly edited) video of Richard Dawkins interviewing Derren Brown about this subject. Brown doesn't go into as much detail as I would have liked, but then I'm sure he has his reasons ;)

-k.]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from miguel1626]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Well, having low self-esteem (not to mention being shy) certainly makes you less eager to hear about yourself (and to see other people's compliments as politeness/manipulation).

For instance, in any gathering I tend to stay silent, since I don't think I've anything useful to add.

Of course, I don't think having low self-esteem is a good thing. Its a curse, in most ways....]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from wtinasky]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Here's an alternate explanation for yesterday's high rating:  the first sentence in your post was an advertisement for the rating tool.

I've read the blog regularly for well over a year, and yesterday was the first time (at least that I can remember) I became aware of the rating mechanism (I know, I know - I can't find my shoes in the morning either).  I didn't end up rating yesterday's post, although I very nearly did.  If I had, it would have been solely for the &quot;hey look, a new thing I didn't know existed before&quot; factor.

Yesterday's post wasn't necessarily popular, it was just well advertised.  A better metric for assessing reader impact might be counting the number of comments left - although that might be biased as well, since you specifically solicited reader feedback.  Why don't you go through the last 3 months of posts and separate out the ones in which you ask a question: how many more comments, on average, do those posts get?]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[Comment  from gerrychampoux]]></title>
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<description><![CDATA[Yesterday, I recognized the cold read, and commented as such. However, as I read many of yesterday's comments from others, I was surprised how few recognized it as well. Too many people fell for this so easily.

And I too do not believe in astrology. That's because we Geminis are naturally skeptical.]]></description>
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